The meaning of unconditional love is truly understood by parents because God has dwelled love in their hearts for their children. No matter you treat them with good attitude or a bad one, they will love you in all circumstances and this quality differentiates them from the rest of the world. The basic problem with a child-parent relationship is that God has planted love in the heart of the parents but not all children love their parents the way they should love. In all Holy books, there is a certain point to be noted. God has always asked children to obey and look after their parents but there is not even a single statement that asks the parents to take care of their children because God knows that He does not need to tell them to do so as they’ve already being programmed to love their children unconditionally.

Children do love their parents as well but not as much as parents do. They often do not know the ways to make parents happy the way they should and in many ways they hurt their parents.  Hurting parents in this world will never make you successful in this life and the hereafter as their prayers always accompany you and ease your difficulties in the ways we do not understand. God has given them high ranks because mothers keep you in her womb for nine months with pain and then takes care of you when you needed care the most as a baby. Your father worked day and night just to feed you and his wife setting his own priorities behind. Many children think that it’s the duty of parents to take care of their children. Never take the efforts of your parents for granted. Many times they sacrificed the things they loved just for their children. Their life is full of sacrifices so they deserve your care and respect. Many children realize the real contribution of parents in their lives when they themselves become parents. I want you to realize this earlier especially in your teens when children often think their parents to be their rivals. This perception is wrong. If you do not understand why are they stopping you to do things independently and keeping you in limits, you should know that you are too immature to understand the significance. Still obey them and within few years, you will know the reason and will be satisfied.

The realization of how children should treat their parents is very important and the purpose of writing this article is an effort to do so.

Time then money

The most important thing that you, as a child, should give your parents is your time. As soon as parents get old, they need your time more and become more sensitive. Realizing responsibilities, many children think that they should look after their parents by sending them money only. Money is important for them as well but your attention is of more priority than money. So, you should give them both. Even if you’re too busy, spend at least 1 hour with them and find out which any problems they have or anything they need for which they are dependent over you. Sort out their issues if any and this is the best way they will feel that you care for them.

Obedience

Obedient children are always loved and appreciated by parents. You should try to obey your parents as much as you could unless they ask you to do something unethical. It might be possible that you disagree with them several times on many issues. In that case convey them politely that you think about it this way. If they do not understand, do not try to win the argument with them. Be quiet and do not shout even if you do not agree but never do anything that God does not want you to do for them. You should always try to maintain respect in this relationship because your parents look after you when you were a baby. They do not feel good emotionally if you argue with them rudely on any matter.

Care

If any deserve your maximum care in this world then those are your parents. They look after you and sacrificed many things for your happiness through out your life so you should try to take care of them to the most. Help them in their daily chores, make up their cupboard, bring the things that they need from market, look after them if they are ill and give them food on proper timings if they are old. If you are going somewhere meet them before leaving and let them know if you’re travelling somewhere that you reached them safely. Call them daily if you’re away from them. Take care of their friends and relatives as this makes them happy when you have a positive attitude with their loved ones.

Be Grateful

One of the most important things is that you must make your parents realize how much you are grateful for their efforts that they put in to make you a person you are today. Expressing feelings is difficult but as far as you’re dealing with humans it is an essential ingredient in informing them how much you love them. Be thankful to them for the care they give you and never show them that you get irritated when they are concerned about your well-being.

Gifts

Surprise them with gifts and do not wait for a particular occasion. Always keep track of their needs and likes and meet them by gifting them things that they need the most. For example, if your mother likes roses, bring her a bunch of roses someday. She will feel herself very special and will be happy to have it from her child. Make their favorite dish as a surprise.

Patience

As soon as parents are getting older, you have to show them more patience. Old age itself is a disease and people get more difficult and bitter as they are getting older. Always treat them with patience and never scold them or speak rude to them. If they scold you, listen them carefully and convey your point politely. Many problems arise when you’re dealing with old people. Sometimes they can not listen to you because of the malfunctioning of the ears and sometimes they forget things and start scolding their children even when they did not make mistake. Do not take it serious and be patient. You should always know that you heaven and hell lies in their happiness and sorrow. Make them happy and God will make you a successful person in this world and the hereafter.

Pray for them

Being a good child, you should pray for your parents’ everyday for their good health and a better life in both worlds. If they are ill or facing problems in their life, pray for the ease of their pains. God listens to the prayers of children for their parents and the prayers of parents for their children.

Good deeds

Be a good human being and a do good deeds. Never do anything that makes them feel embarrassed. You should work hard to get good grades in school and word hard in your job. No one becomes as happy as your parents on your success. Always avoid bad acts such as crimes, cheating anyone, taking drugs, being dishonest etc. Your good attitude and good character are the two things that make your parents feel proud of you because they played a major role in making you a person you are today.

Old homes

Never ever send your parents to old homes. Always keep them with you once they are old and take care of them no matter how difficult it is for you. Relations are more important than time and money. Never sacrifice your relations for these two things. All of the Holy Books advise humans to take care of their parents. By leaving to old homes you are getting rid of their responsibility but make sure not to do something with your parents that you do not like for yourself. They took good care of you when you were a child and now they do not deserve this and whatever you do will be returned back to you. This is the rule of the world.

Balance between your spouse and parents

Your parents and your spouse both are important in your lives. While dealing with both, there is more responsibility on your shoulders to keep justice between both of them. Give time to parents and a separate time to your spouse as well. If you are sitting with everyone do not consider it to be giving time to your spouse too. If you want that your spouse would love your parents too and do not take them as a burden, give him/her separate time in room as well. When you are giving him/her privacy, he/she will not feel you parents to be a hurdle in your relationship and will respect and love them more. At least once a week you should go out with your spouse alone to give him/her space to enjoy time with you. Never ever side your parents or your spouse when your spouse or parents talks about some problem regarding each other respectively and be just. Admitting their mistakes cools down the person who has problem where as taking wrong side inducts hatred in their hearts for the other party. If you keep a good balance between your parents and your spouse, they both will go along better with each other resulting peace and happiness in your home.

Have you ever wondered why some people are more loved than others? Why some people have charismatic personality where others go unnoticed. What makes them more lovable and attractive? Most commonly, it is the attitude. 

“Attitude is a little thing that makes a huge difference”

People with good attitude and manners are much more in demand than those with poor attitude and bad manners. Though with the advancement of time, majority of the people often think that only cleverness can make them successful in their life but they do not understand that God has placed the ability to judge good or bad things in human’s mind. We can not change that and a person with good values and behavior will always be appreciated. If today people are not giving value to a good person tomorrow they surely will.  No matter how much money and luxuries you have, if you do not have a good heart and you do not care for the feelings of those around you, they will not feel comfortable in your presence. 

“Some people cause happiness wherever they go and some whenever they go”

Lets look at the qualities that can make you lovable and “happy to be around” person.

 
Be Caring
 
Care is the one of the strongest weapons that attracts people towards you. There are two

types of people you never forget. One who gave you pain and the other who took care of you when you needed it the most. A caring person is not a self-centered person. He takes others problems as his own and tries to solve and help them. Even I ask you a question that who is your best friend? I’m sure whoever you’ll name will be your most caring friend. Isn’t it ?


Be Understanding
 
To make people comfortable, it is very important to understand their feelings. Whenever

anyone tells you his problem, you should listen it carefully and should try to solve it. Reply it in the way “I understand that it must have hurt your feelings, why do not you try to do this”. Rather than saying “It does not seem to be problem, Why are you creating mess with it” or saying “It must be your mistake that you are facing with this problem”. Imagine yourself in the situation. Assure the person that you have understood how worried he is and then give a good solution.


Be Helping

No matter wherever you go and wherever you are, be a good helper. For example, if you are

sitting in a waiting room and someone needs water there. If you have a bottle, offer him. If you see a blind person crossing the road, help him do that. Do not be shy in lending a helping hand towards others. People never forget those ever helped them when they were in need.

“People may forget what you said them, but they will never forget how you made them feel”

Be a good listener
 
Everybody wants and admire a good listener. Whenever someone talks to you, look into the eyes of the speaker and listen carefully what they are saying. Understand it well and give your suggestion and advice if needed. All of you must

have experienced bad listeners and how awkward you feel when the person you are talking to diverts his attention. Another important aspect is that you should know when you have to be quite and when not to be. A good listener gains people’s trust and they will love to be around him.

Be Motivating
 
One of the traits of a positive person is that he is very motivating. People often like to tell

their problems to a person who is encouraging to them. Whenever anyone seems worried, motivate the person with the sentences like “I know you can do it”, “things get better with time if you keep on trying” or “Time does not remain the same always. Wait for good days”. If you have some past experience regarding the issue and the problem is resolved now, tell him what you learned and how your efforts took you out of it. Consequently, people will love to have your company always.

Be Yourself
 
Always remember that showing off may appear better but does not put a good impression on the people around you. Do not pretend what you are not. If you want to show people that you are a good person, be a good person. Always speak the truth because truth keeps you away from many sins and once you’ll be a good person, it will be obvious to everyone with no show offing. 

Do not backbite

Do not backbite about the person who is not around you. It is not only a sin but if you do not practice back biting, it will keep you successful in your relationships with everyone. When you did not utter a bad word for someone so you do not need to afraid of the fact that someone will try to create fight between you and the people you know.
 
Last Words
 
Always be good with people for God’s sake. Even if they’ll hurt you in return, you will not stop being good with them because it was God for whom you were making those efforts. He is happy  and he’ll reward you for that somehow. Have a strong belief in it and go ahead !!.

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